So how does this crazy app work?
Selfling is a chat app. You can post on the news feed, message other members, and look for events in your area. That part you know how to use. Where Selfling is different is in why you are chatting.
Selfling is about building a foundation of support to help teens out of challenging situations where they feel like there is no way out.
Here’s how it goes:
Success for You is Success for Selfling
Selfling is a safe and constructive online environment. We should all look forward to coming here. To help you do just that, here are some points that will make your time on the network so much more awesome:
Selfling is a Safe Place
Growing up can be really tough. Selfling can’t make that any easier by itself, it needs your help. You know you are here for your own reasons. You could be looking for connections about identity or advice about relationships. Every other teen on here is here for his and her own reasons. Learn to be accepting of others on the network and they will do the same in return.
Respectful treatment of others on the network is requested by all users – teens and sponsors – and will be enforced. We are sure you understand where we’re coming from.
If you find yourself frustrated or angry and you’re about to post something nasty to or about someone else (whether they’re on Selfling or not), stop for a minute. Think it over. Reach out on the network to one of Selfling’s sponsor members or organizations and seek some advice.
According to research done by ReThink, you are 93% less likely to post a harmful or hurtful message if you give it a second thought.
Dangerous Talk on Selfling
If you ever see harmful or threatening messages on Selfling, you should definitely flag them. These messages might be directed at another member or they may be directed at the user herself. Any threats against another user or against oneself must be taken very seriously.
It doesn’t take much, just click the flag button and we will do the rest.
You could save someone’s life by doing just that.
Selfling is a Place to get Help
If you need someone to talk to really badly, you are in the right place. We have connections to help services in Calgary and they are here to do just that. If you aren’t comfortable talking to an organization, there are sponsors on the network – the Sensei – who know how to listen and to offer the right kind of advice at the right time. They are here to help as well.
You, too, can help other Selfling members. Being a friend, even a helpful stranger, can go a long way. If you are comfortable, listen to another Selfling member who might need some help. Talking is a big step and so is listing and believing. Your time spent hearing another teen can mean the world but…
YOU DON’T HAVE TO!
If you are a teen yourself, you may be too vulnerable to be of any help. Don’t put yourself in a bad spot. If someone wants to confide in you, and you’re scared, tell him that you don’t feel confident doing so and maybe offer to connect him with a Sensei you know.
Some Quick Tips
If someone is in a really stressful situation, try not to say any of the following:
- “It will pass”
- “I’ve been where you are”
- “I know how you feel”
The best thing you can do is listen (or read… this is a text-based app). Trying to relate to the Selfling who is confiding in you will make his problem seem smaller and that is probably not what he needs. Ask, afterwards, how you could help further and just talk about the places where the Selfling can get help.
DON’T OFFER TO KEEP SECRETS!
Okay, that was extreme. A friend should be able to confide in you but you should never promise to keep a secret if the secret is about a crime that has or will be committed or if someone has or will be hurt. This could land you in a world of trouble.
If anyone wants to talk, but starts out with “I need to tell you something but you have to promise not to tell anybody,”, offer to help but insist that you can’t keep a secret involving a crime or someone being hurt. That Selfling might not confide in you but you have to keep yourself out of trouble.
Selfling offers a news feed and calendar designed specifically for you to find new opportunities to make your mark in your community, find new and exciting activities, and even plan a little for the future. Keep looking to see what’s going on and make sure to register for some of the events and activities you see. We all are a little nervous about getting out of our comfort zones. The first time getting out to try something new is scary but it will get easier and you will meet new people and be trying new things all the time!
Join the Team
We will be actively pursuing youth help agencies to join our SPOT Society and volunteers to join Selfling as the ever important Sensei. With more and more involvement by local agencies and volunteers, the value of the Selfling app grows as more and more teens are able to access a wider range of support.
Protecting What’s Most Precious
All registrants to the SPOT Society or Sensei membership levels will require administration approval. Selfling admin will be in touch with interested agencies regarding their SPOT Society application as well as volunteers registering as Sensei. Persons registering as Sensei will have either been recruited by Selfling admin or through a volunteer agency. These precautions are taken to protect the teens using Selfling.